Let’s get to it: My husband asked me for a divorce last Monday.

Immediate question would be why? We’ve had our issues, things we’ve been trying to work on for years now. It was finally time to end the trying. He was tired, I was tired, neither of us was happy. He wants to go out on his own, find what makes him happy. I agree that he needs to do the right thing for him.

In the state of NJ, in order to file for a no-fault divorce, we need to be voluntarily separated for a “cooling off” period of 18 months living at separate addresses. At the end of that 18 months, we will file the papers with the court.

It’s been a long road, and I’m tired too. We’re trying to make this happen on amicable terms, but our decision is solid.  In 18 months, we will be divorced and until then, we’re going our own ways.

Maybe I’ll learn how to breathe again after it stops hurting.